Then again it isn't so simple is it? We, I mean women, like to think gender isn't a defining thing. I like to think I'll let my little boy play with Barbies if he wants and my little girl play with her Daddy's firetrucks if she wants; but I know without even realizing it we as parents will contribute some sort of gender role stereotypes in our child's life.
On top of that we have to name the kid too.
Do you realize how heady that is? Naming someone?!
We're going to be setting the stage for every thing from her/his nicknames to her/his chances of landing a job interview.
I've started this long list of possibilities. However, we've had some names in mind for quite awhile. And by Wednesday we should be able to cut the list in half!
After considering THE NAME for awhile I've come up with an idea of what characteristics the name should have. First, I want it to be pronounceable. I've gone through my whole life correcting the way people say my name; trust me it is important. Second, it has to be spellable. Yep, I've had to spell my name my whole life, too. Third, it has to be classic but fairly uncommon and not trendy. Fourth, it has to honor our family histories in some way. Fourth, I'd prefer it not to be a long name like our last name, so either one or two syllables.
Our top picks have been in our heads for several years. We're leaning towards Evelyn for a girl and Andrew for a boy. I've wanted to name a boy after my maternal grandfather, Andrew, since I was a child. I've never really imagined having a son and not naming it Andrew. But, my sister-in-law confused that decision when she named my adorable nephew, Tim's mini-me, Andrew. No one has used Evelyn yet. We like that name because it honors two of our grandmothers. We'd call Evelyn Evie for short.
One of the other naming schemes is to use a form of my namesake's and my name. I was named after my Grandma Helen. My name of course is Elena. So, I'm thinking of naming either a boy or girl using the same meaning or "El---."
I'm curious to hear readers' input on these lists. They're not in any particular order after the first name on each list. Keep in mind the middle name is already chosen, the details are in this blog post.
Here is the partial list of boys' names that we're considering:
- Elenora (Ellie/Nora)
So, even though I've loved Isabel/bella for a long time and the fact that it is a family name I fear she'd be in class with a bunch of Twihards' kids. Isabella was the most popular baby girl name of 2009.
(P.S. Guess the U.S. is Team Jacob? The #1 male name of 2009 is Jacob).
Now, another one of the criteria is a classic name, in other words a name that has aged well. So, I looked up 1911's top baby names. In case you're not following the timing, 1911 is 100 years prior to our due date. Really I know you're not that stupid, kind readers. I just like to point out how clever I am.
Guess what? Two of our boy name picks and three of our girl name picks made the list of the most popular 1911 names.
On an unrelated note...oh, who am I kidding? Of course this is Baby related, too!
Wednesday is the day we find out which of these lists we can eliminate entirely. If you want on the email list for Baby Spam send me a message with your email address. We're considering a mass mailing Wednesday night to let every one except my parents know if it is a boy or girl. Here's the deal, though. My parents can't find out the sex! They want to be surprised. So you'll be sworn to absolute secrecy.
Mmm, tasty Baby Spam.
So, what do you think about the name ideas lovely readers, family, and friends? Any favorites?